When we say people are working from their past, it does not mean that they live in the past. It means that they are still reacting to situations that have happened in the past. They carry that energy from the past into the present and future.
Eg. A person has failed in a particular exam once in his life, the person will carry this fear of failing not only for other exams but also for any situation where pass or fail matters. It could be getting a contract, or a client but if he fails to do it, for whatever the reason, even reasons beyond his control he would still resurrect the fail of the exam in his past and the feelings associated with it, and feel that he is a failure in life.
The trick is to realize that we carry so much of our past with us and every subsequent situation we react as if it was the first one. As the man in the eg. we immediately open our baggage pull out our feeling of failure and wallow in it. As if it is the only emotion we can feel and no other.
This feeling exponentially increases if there is someone in his life who also points, or criticizes him for the failure. It could be a passing comment from his boss, or colleague. He just failed to get one client/contract, which can happen to anyone, but since he is reacting from his past failure feeling, it feels like he has failed hugely. It is his perspective and his feelings.
These erroneous perspectives can very easily be righted by rewriting the episode of him failing the exam when he was a child and change the way he looks at it, as a one off situation. Then the feeling of failure also releases its death hold on his psyche and he starts feeling a success.
It is just the change of our perspective that makes even a failed person a success in life.
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