Slave to Bad Memories

We all want to be free to do what we want to do.  We all have a villain in our lives who prevents us from doing what we want to do. But is this villain the real reason for not doing things, or is he a convenient ‘blame source’.

Many a times we move out of the place where our villains stay, sometimes we even move to another country. Other times these villains, are people who are dead relatives, i.e. they are no longer with us now. Still it is surprising how we don’t get down to doing the things that we really want, and we always hanker about how we had a bad past, and how this villain prevented us from doing those things we wanted.

But what is stopping you now. What is it that holds us back, is it that we are our own villains, is it our own lethargy, procrastination, fear of un-known, habit or the voices of the villain in our heads, that stops us. Most will pick the voices of the villain in our heads option, because it is still easy to blame the voice in our heads, than to take responsibility for our lives.

We are so conditioned to blame others, so that we are not the bad guys, we are the perfect ones. We do the best, and the others do the worst. We are confident that what we are is our best selves, and that should not change.

Let us look at it from a different perspective, suppose those villains in our lives were our conscious speaking, suppose they were the ones who prodded us to do more than we were willing to do. Suppose these people saw how we truly were and wanted us to be better, they saw the better potential in ourselves and that’s why, they prodded us in the first place.

Now they are the good, people because we see them in a different light, a different perspective and find that they were there in our lives because they wanted us to do what we wanted to do, but with conviction. We did not have that conviction, so we did not stand up to them (villains in our lives), and tell them that we really wanted to do this, and nothing else. Once the conviction is there in us no one can stop us.

Some of us move to another place and do what we want to do, and find success, but a portion of us hankers for the approval of the villain, because we know that if that person approves, then we have even the opposition voting for us. But is it possible for the opposition to vote for us. The oppositions job is to oppose so that you do a better job, and don’t settle for a compromise.

Let’s all think about the villains in our lives and their roles.